Love and Lust

Honestly? No cryptic bullshit this time round. Z's analysis of open relationships and soul mates.

Soul Mates, the ONE, your other half, all cleverly worded jail sentences. No, hear me out, because I have nothing against jail- I mean monogamous relationships. They're comprised of three things, commitment, trust and affection/lust. Because without that chemistry, it might as well be an arranged marriage. Some people wonder why their relationships don't work out, or how they are single. Trust and commitment are the biggest two...issues, but it takes no amount of effort to figure out lust. You see it you want it. Done. Trust, if someone has been "fucked over" in the past, and you're the one they "want to try and trust", give. them. a. chance. I'm serious. Stop being a controling freak, who thinks everyone has issues, and cannot deal with life. (we all have some issue with our past that is taking forever to get over). Be patient. Do not rush them, because that trust will be ridiculously worth the wait.

Maybe, hell, you want people in your life who take time to trust you, because they know the value of it way more than someone who trusts blindly.

Commitment is another big thing to deal with. "Oh no, I've been in committed relationships." Think again. If your relationship(s) last years, that's committment. Two months, not so much. There is a scale people use to judge if you can deal with committment, in case, you didn't know. And it's a lot to handle. In monogamous relationship, that person is the only person you will a)sleep with, b) sleep next to, and c)say I love you to. That is the basic rule for relationships these days, right? Right.

Personally, I don't think anyone younger than thirty should even consider getting married. If you do, good luck. Until you hit that big 30, you are purely fucking around. Career hasn't even begun yet, stability is up in the air, and last time you checked there was a LIST of girls/boys you wanted to bang. Do NOT settle down, because temptation and committment do not mix. Wait.

Think it through.

Fuck everyone on that list, before you look into someone's eyes and accidently lie when they ask, "You don't want to sleep with anyone else do you?" (Because I have heard the stories and sometimes this question takes the most insane forms...)

Now. On to something a bit more fun.
Open relationships. At first I didn't understand them. Why would anyone bother with one? If you're going to sleep with anyone and everyone...Hang on, chill out, I'm not done. Open relationships seem to be based of a different set of components than exclusive couples. Trust yes of course, the has to be some sort of trust, but there's also love and maturity.

How many of you can honestly say you would not get jealous if "your" significant other was sleeping with other people? Put your hands down. Especially you, thinking, "Well if it were another girl, I'd be cool with it." No, what?! That's horrible.

An open relationship can't work if any one of these things is absent. No trust, no love, and that certainly is not very mature. People get hurt and just need to heal(known as the rebound), people want to sleep with other people in a very casual way(because how else are you going to get better at it, if you don't practice). It's normal, it's human. We all want to sleep with a lot of other people, some of us just give ourselves what we want.

Basically, if you love someone who wants to sleep with other people but there is no question that they love you, have at it. (Some people think this is setting yourself to get hurt, but why else would trust be so essential to ANY relationship...)

There's nothing wrong with either of these relationships, sole partner or all the partners, just a couple guidelines.

1. BE SAFE
2. Know what you want before you accidently/indirectly hurt people emotionally, (mean and casual sex don't mix apparently)
3. BE SAFE.

have fun. ;)